I feel like pulling my hair out

I just feel like screaming! I have very strong willed children 2 & 5. The complete disregard for what I say drives me up the wall. It’s so hard for me to enjoy my kids because of this. I discipline and try to do fun things and make the time with them fun but I’m so drained by the disregard and disobedience. I can’t be the only one who feels like this. Idk what to do.

The grandparents help as much as possible. My husband too, they listen when he’s home. But forget what mom says. 😒 why do kids try their boundaries with moms? All the work, love, and effort we pour in just to be treated like this.