MIL comments on me being an “old mom”

I feel like i’m running out of defense (and patience) when it comes to my MIL discussing when me (30F) and my husband (29M) will have children. We just got married this year in August, and my husband is a surgical resident finishing his last year of residency in June 2025. he will start an attending job shortly after that will almost 3x his current salary.

The thing that irks me is that she will constantly talk about her other friends children having kids (husband is only child) and how she’s jealous they get to be “young grandparents”. she then goes on to tell me — for the MILLIONTH time — how she had my husband when she was 25 because she wanted to be a “young mom with energy to enjoy her child”.

it feels insulting to me because my mom had me at 36 and is still full of life. i don’t plan on having children until my husband is 1-2 years out of residency, putting me at 32ish.

she said something again today about if we even want kids because we aren’t having any so i kindly said (along the lines of): “it’s insulting to me and husband that you do not respect our timeline for children and assume us not having them right now is us never wanting them. i might be an “old” mom but having a kid isn’t an accessory for a grandmother and im waiting until husband is done with medical training so we are in a better place financially to bring a child to this world.”

she didn’t like that, and continued to say that being a “young mom” was the best choice she made for her son.

it’s exhausting. rant over.