A letter to the depressed person

My ex and I broke up 6 months ago after more than a year of dating, he broke up with me, and we reconnected 2 months ago because he reached out.

Things were good between us, I genuinely thought he was the person I’d marry, and yet because of trauma with his family, he got depressed and sabotaged our relationship.

I respected his space when we broke up, but he persistently reached out, and now that I’m there for him, he takes everything as an attack. I know what it’s like to be depressed, I only got better months before I met him. With his depression, insecurities, and anger issues all combined, he pushes people away and likes to blame me for things.

I don’t really expect much from him anymore, I’ve also kept my distance but he’s the one who keeps reaching out. It’s hard, one day we’re okay, the next he’s pulling away. The disrespect is too much and I feel sorry for myself, but I also love him too much to leave him alone knowing he’s suicidal and has no support system.

I know it’s hard, you’re fighting your own demons. But when you can, please try to tell or show the people who are always there for you how much you appreciate them. It’s hard for us too. We grieve the version of you we lost, we’re trying to be strong even when we can’t, and we’d take the pain away if we could, but all we can do is be there for you.

We’re on the same boat. You’re not alone. Please reach out, and try to be appreciative.

Sincerely, Someone Who Cares For A Depressed Person