Dilemma for upcoming EDC LV with fiancée, her friends and my friends. What would you do in my position?
Context: I love to rave and be in the crowd while my fiancée just goes to spend time with me as she hates the music and feels claustrophobic and overwhelmed sometimes.
We recently went to a rave for a few hours and met with both of our friends groups. Her friends went off to the side and my friends went into the crowd (which I like). I asked many times if she wanted to go with her friends but she said it was okay to go in the crowd with mine as she just wanted to be with me. Throughout the rave I asked if she wanted us to go find her friends but she said it would be too difficult and its okay. After the rave ended she said she wished she was around her friends because she grew up raving with them which is completely understandable and that's what she's use to.
This will be my first EDC so I was wondering If I should sacrifice my love to the energy I like of being in the crowd with my friends to be with her and her friends on the stands or in the far back. She says her friends will take care of her but I feel like as a man (or just my over protectiveness) that I would feel safer if she was with me.
Obviously with two different friends groups the sets that they want to see will be different or even me myself might want to go to a set that neither of them want to and side quest. I just don't want her to resent me for her not being with her friends but I'm also confused because she said she'll go where I go.
I don't care if she get's hit on or not, she can take care of that herself as she has many times, but I have heard many stories of girls (mostly) getting groped or touched inappropriately because of all the messed up guys that have no respect. Her safety is my priority obviously but it's confusing when she say's she goes for me but when we're there she wants us to be with her friends.
Obviously I know being there in general will be a vibe and good times, I just don't want to regret not having the full experience I could have especially after spending hundreds of dollars.
If you were in my my position are you ;
A: 'Sacrificing' your first EDC experience to be with your s/o and her friends and maybe feeling like you missed out of going in the crowd with your friends after
B: Parting ways where I'm with my friends and she's with hers and worrying about her. She says they trust them and I do as well, but everyone will be on stuff and all have s/o's so how I see it is her and her safety is not their priority where as it would be for me. (Least likely option as I don't like the idea of what if's especially in that environment if anything were to happen to her I would feel guilty.) I don't want to be selfish but it's also my hobby and not hers.
C: Maybe find some resolution to where we evenly see both friend groups 1 and half day each? But I have heard it can be hard to meet up with people especially mid way during the event or if we wonder off to sets they don't want to see and end up not finding them after.
Thankyou!