It’s so easy to idolize a man

Almost two years ago I made a happy post in here that was extremely popular, talking about how my boyfriend at the time was so caring and dedicated to making me orgasm without asking for anything in return. Six months later, I deleted it out of pure shame at how that relationship turned out. Not long after that he started neglecting me emotionally, ignoring me for days and never taking accountability, hurting me with words, putting me in unsafe situations, betraying my trust multiple times… It got so bad I suffered a miscarriage in silence because I never felt safe to tell him, since he had threatened to leave me any time I complained or suffered ‘too much’. I broke up with him almost a year ago because I was dead inside in that relationship and extremely codependent of him… And I coudn’t stop thinking about that post. How I thought I had struck gold, found a man that actually cared about me and prioritized me, how everyone praised him, and how it all ended up. It’s extremely important to NEVER put a man in a pedestal. They can switch up suddenly and ruthlessly like he did. And you’ll never expect it. I hate that it has to be this way.