So tired of this "chill girl/gf" thing going on

It's been some time but i was talking about my personal experience on Indian women's subreddit (because I'm Indian) which was-

In college, my peers were oogling at some guys and i didn't want to because i wasn't interested and because I have a partner already. While discussing about that, i said that this behaviour felt disrespectful towards my partner. My friends all talked about oogling at pretty girls and guys together with their bfs and i got told to be "chill" and "to not be boring".

I got hurt by what my friends told me and i was venting about that but the women of that sub said that i wanted praises for being a perfect submissive girlfriend and that i was being "prude". Yes, those women called me prude. And I'm the farthest from being submissive so???

I was literally just sad about my friends seeing me as boring but because everybody felt called out because i don't wanna go crazy drooling over some mediocre men, they shifted the topic, completely ignoring what i was even talking about. My FRIENDS.

I'm very sensitive, i don't tolerate a lot of behaviour such as oogling at others while you're in a relationship and I'm firm on that and I'm proud of knowing what my boundries are.

But i think it's such a sad state where women are just forced to be "chill", letting their bfs oogle at other women and do it together to be seen at cool. And ofcourse they call it their "choice'. Worst part is that they get angry at women who don't want to do that and call out this behaviour...?

Like is it that crazy to not like people who oogle at strangers and make them uncomfortable? 😭

How can a country like India be filled with so many choice feminists? Crazy to me.