What are your pet peeves when it comes to non-Jewish writers writing Jewish characters?

Using a throwaway, cuz last time I posted this I accidentally used some word choice I didn’t realize was wrong and…it didn’t go well.

I’m wanting to write a fan-fiction of a piece of media that has a Jewish character, and in my work, this character is now the main character (including PoV). However, I myself am not Jewish, so I know I run the risk of getting things wrong. Heck, as mentioned before, I got things wrong the first time I tried to post these questions!

While I’m obviously trying to do my best with researching on my own, I also know that no amount of outside research is going to compare to, you know, talking to a Jewish person about their experience. Thus, I have a few questions if y’all don’t mind

1.) What are some common pitfalls/mistakes y’all see in media when non-Jewish writers try to write Jewish characters, even when they have good intentions?

2.) What are some things you see in media that drive you absolutely up the wall? Conversely, what are some things you wish you could see in media, but rarely/never do?

3.) What are some things that, when you see them in media, make you truly feel seen? Like the writer either understood your experience themself or, at the very least, listened?

I’m so sorry if I’m not supposed to be here or if I’ve said something wrong again—I’m truthfully not trying to offend. If I did, just let me know and I’ll delete this post and won’t come back. Thank you for your time.