I WAS BLIND! I literally have Charlotte Dobre to THAAANK for the end of my 3 year relationship♡

It's a crazy feeling to be posting to this thread.. I never used reddit, and my only real connection here is Charlotte and her videos.

Charlotte, GOOD LOOKING OUT. F24 here. I have always been very easy going and spontaneous. I have a lot of faith where faith has no place being. I just want to be happy, and was always blissfully unaware of bad intentions and manipulation. I always saw the best in people, and projected my pure heart onto others, not understanding the ability to think otherwise. I grew up with a father who thought he spoke to God and abused his family and smuggled coke over boarders, and a mentally ill atheist mother who helicopter parented it up and was extremely over protective of my brother and I. We were both bullied relentlessly and changed school systems and moved a couple times. We were super stand outish in character, theater/band kids with alternative styles.

When I was 17, I left home because I lived under my mothers thumb. Depressed, I wanted my freedom but never had it. I found a job and a home and friends in a cult. I left my state, and stayed for as long as it seemed realistic. I decided to come home to my mom at 21.

Almost immediately after leaving this, without actually having gathered myself I met M32. We were both artists and had a business together, the fairy and the wizard.. so we will call him the wizard. The business is dead, don't bother. He had just moved from Colorado and got a job at the banquet facility where i worked and we catered things like weddings and baby showers together. We worked well together. So well that I infact admit that we were pretty much the same person, but also picked up each other's slack incredibly well.

We quickly started dating and maintained that motif for maybe a year. Our relationship was beautiful, camping and falling asleep on beaches, doing creative projects together etc. At this point, I was already staying with him and practically have been from the beginning. We had a jewlery/commission art business together and now that I'm allowed to talk crap, my work was always superior and more consistent and I carried the business. I took our sales book. Written entirely in my handwriting and can confirm that something like 95% of whatever we sold was created by me. Our business supported itself and it was growing quickly, having only put down about 150 dollars each in the beginning we were acquiring power tools and art supplies and trade show opportunities.

           Now for the roller coaster..

When I first met him, he was in the middle of an eviction. From what it seemed, his roommate broke the lease on several accounts and was inconsistent with rent, but he never did a thing. Now I've gotten to know his family and I know that to not be true and he was just as much to blame. We moved into the basement level of the same multi family house as his parents. There, we were each responsible for paying a measly 500 dollars a month to his mother for a living room, a bathroom, an art studio and a bedroom to share. Well despite him working far more hours than what I did, would still ask me to pay for everything. All our food and snacks, every time we called the plug, and sometimes even some of his rent at the end of the month. He lost his car, unable to both make the payment on it and fix the problems it was having that were outside of the warranty (turbo and engine problems because he went forrreeever without an oil change) ...Well.. I stupidly gave him the benefit of doubt, knowing he was also paying for our TV and Playstation subscriptions and other necessities.. times are tough and we lived in a bad town, and I never asked where the money was going.

We were very happy together, we had just gotten a kitten after I had asked for a long time. He finally caved in because of a mouse problem in our house. I was the only one to ever clean by the way, and I never minded until the mess got noticeably bad at times where I was simply too busy to keep up with it alone. He was always sweet and polite and romantic and we were always together. But there were a couple of times where I had found excessive amounts of porn in his possession. In his photo gallery, following hoes on our business account and on his separate tik tok and Instagram account, but I never found any messages and we had 3 conversations about me being uncomfortable with it and not wanting to see it. He gas lit me, and made me feel crazy for asking. Porn is normal i can't ask someone not to watch it.

I really did think I was just being paranoid. Now, this is the part where i imagine Charlotte with a super hero cape. I don't have any girlfriends to vent to. Or friends for that matter. I started watching your videos, and he HATED it. He said they were annoying. "What kind of person even watches other people's drama for fun" trying to make me feel guilty. And I did. So I watched your videos privately. And i enjoyed them very much (:

I got a new job working 5pm to 4am at a 24 hour diner and I loved it. But this is where things get messy. He spirals. He's snapping at me, clearly had something on his mind. Asking me for money A LOT. Seemingly disappointed if I come home early. Super sneaky with his phone. Wants to go an entire day without being romantic and then "do it." If I say no, depressed for days until I said yes again. In a perfectly orchestrated fashion, Charlotte Dobre was calling him out in her YouTube videos. You opened my eyes to ALL OF IT. I heard his phone go off at 4 am one night when I was getting into bed with him. I came home early, and he had gone to bed almost immediately after me getting home. It was a little ding. A ding that I have never heard before. I knew it was a dating app. He was snoring, and I got out of bed and grabbed his phone. It was a message from onlyfans. It said "what happened, are you ignoring me now?" With nothing above it as if a prior conversation had been deleted. This man had 75 onlyfans subscriptions, not all but some of which he was paying for. Here's the kicker. He was tipping these girls, and sending them money for their bills when he couldn't even pay his own bills.

He had entire relationships with girls that were clearly robots, and girls who were using him.. he followed almost 2000 women across Instagram tik tok and only fans. Where he found the time, I'm not sure. Receipts on my birthday, the day we got our cat, from bounced transactions on onlyfans, all of it. So I started aggressively shaking him awake. I said, I found your onlyfans and he PANICKED. he was like oh my God * fairy *I don't know what you saw but it isn't like that I'm sorry blah blah blah, so I left the room after he had taken the phone from my hands. He didn't follow me. I sat in the living room and I grabbed the business laptop, and went to his email. All of the things he thought he deleted.. all the evidence of was there. He came out of the room at 5:30 in the morning with his work clothes on, to work at 9:30. No car.. Left after a brief interaction on his way out the door.

I said "so this is where all your money went?" No response. "You cheated on me!" He then said that I was acting irrationally and that he didn't want his mom to call the cops on me. So I yelled even louder "YOU CHEATED ON ME" I gave him a good shove, and he left. Never to be seen again because I packed my bags and I went upstairs and I told his mom and she made sure I was as comfortable as I could be while I tied up loose ends and left to live with my mom again. I had to quit my job and come to a new town but I got an amazing job as a framer, making custom picture frames and framing people's artwork. I have my cat with me and he is my best friend, but I have also reconnected with a couple old friends and I'm about to get my license and my own place and I'm so much better off.

Everything happens for a reason guys. Independence and self love are KEY. I'm lonely, bit it's probably for the best 0.o