NEW RULE INCOMING: Outsiders must behave (raw mod vent)

EDIT TO ADD: Thank you all who expressed appreciation and thanks for this post. I've not had much of that kind of positive feedback in my life and it feels strange because I'm not used to it. I'm trying my best but I'm human and I know I'm never going to be perfect so I appreciate feedback. I do know that I can be too defensive of the community and I can treat aggressors poorly as I feel justified in speaking to them the way they speak to you. Participating in the world as an autistic woman has given me more pushback and hate for just being different and I suspect that enables me to empathize with you all so easily. But I upvoted all of you and I see you. Thank you for the positive reinforcement!

Over the holiday we have gotten a few posts that come here from those who do not have AvPD/suspect they have it (this is me saying you don't have to be diagnosed to be valid here).

I'm just fucking over it. Sick of seeing some outsider make a post, tell you guys how to feel/act then shit on the feedback from those who have the lived experiences.

And you guys are too nice to report most of the time because you avoid conflict. I get it, that is why I've enabled filters to try and ketch some of this trash behavior directed at you.

I wanna make it clear: REPORTING IS ANONYMOUS! I want you guys to have a safe place, but lately outsiders have come in treating you poorly and its not fucking cool.

I'm adding this rule in an attempt to help you all feel comfortable reporting such behavior. If there is any other rule that would help you all feel more comfortable reporting poor behavior please let me know, you can do so by mod mail, this post, and direct messaging me. Whatever makes you comfortable.

You can also make custom reports that allows for a text entry where you can explain the issue. Sometimes reports come in and I'm not sure what the issues is but if you are explaining the context to some nuanced things I'll do my best to investigate, at the very least reports get logged for that user and even if I don't see what you guys are seeing often times the paper trail speaks for itself.

I'm sick of seeing some of these people be such assholes to you, and right now my tolerance is at an all time low for it. Help me help you guys, you deserve respect and I can't and wont respect those who speak so horribly to you.