I wouldn’t want to live like this

I’m the primary caregiver for my MIL, she’s 92 with advanced dementia.

When people visit, including her own daughter and son in law, I constantly hear “I wouldn’t want to live like this”.

Well I wouldn’t either but what am I supposed to do? She’s fed, clean, comfortable, has her own bedroom, bathroom and sitting room in my home, she has two TVs, entertainment, my dogs to keep her company. I’ve gone out of my way to provide her with quality of life.

But that constant comment just bothers the hell out of me. Like do they expect me to “take care of her” if you know what I mean??

When I agreed to her living with us (two teenagers and her son my husband) she was still coherent if just slightly confused with aphasia. We’re now in complete dementia where she barely understands anything, and it’s only been two years. The rapid decline is astonishing.

It’s just so frustrating to hear that, especially from her daughter, who is 12 years my senior.

I’m just going to keep going, trying to keep her out of the $14k a month memory facility.

I’m tired, but I know everyone in this group is. Thanks for letting me rant if you read this far.