Is it bad not to chase men?

I never talk to men. I don’t even look at them. The only time that I pay attention to them is if they do something and are attractive. I don’t chase men because in the past when I was nice to guys they always had big mouths and used my name for clout. men are so insecure and they get off on any attention just to share and brag. I remember when I was 14 I chased this guy who was in a relationship and didn’t even like me I promised that I would never be that person again so I wasn’t now I’m someone that is stingy of who I gave my attention to. I won’t even make eye contact with a man who I don’t know regardless if he checks me out because I’m cute and that’s why he’s the one on my watch. I don’t play mind games with people because some people are so insecure and use you.. so I’m Someone who gets chased rather than the chaser. fun fact but all of the men who liked me I never told anyone but only 2 men who I even winked they was as loud as wind they can’t keep nothing to themselves. I even had men who stalked me but I never nothing. some men gossip more than females do. Is it bad to be this way?