My husband thinks I’m a horrible mother because I don’t want to be a SAHM

A little back story. I female 30 and my husband 39 m have four children 11,9,6, &2. For the first 7-8 years I was a SAHM but I went to school and got a certificate and have been working off and on ever since. My husband makes more than enough money for me to stay at home but I would rather work. My 2 yr old has to go to day care every day but for my mental health I cannot be at home all day everyday. We have recently had a pretty big blow up and it has come to light that he resents my job. He would rather me be at home all day to cook and clean and take care of the kids. Where I realize some women would kill for this I’m just not able to do it again. Also we have had many splits and I’m always stuck without a job and no money only for him to throw his money in my face. So my fear of staying at home may be a trauma response to this. On the other hand my husband wants this so he is absolved from doing any house work at all. Now he is calling me a crappy mother because I don’t want to be a SAHM. So AITA?