Post wedding regrets

My wedding was in October 2024 to my partner/fiance of 10+ years. For nearly a decade I knew I wanted to get married in his Grandparents backyard. The first time I realized it I had the whole picture in my head. Only family, maybe one or two close friends. It would be great and easy.

We finally decided to get married last year and the entire planning process almost broke me. My family became aggressively angry about the planning despite me telling them that it was all fine and they could just relax. I didn’t really expect anything different from them though.

But my fiance was very upset about some choices I made and we argued so much. But these arguments were things like I wanted chairs and he didn’t. I wanted music, I made the playlist and had a decent outdoor speaker, he was so upset and didn’t understand why we needed music. Etc to be clear our guest list was less than 40 people, we didn’t hire anyone for anything, and the final cost was less than $4500 which was less than the money we received as gifts

There were additional issues with the ceremony because some family members told us when they arrived they could only stay for a short time. So we rushed the ceremony.

I’ve tried to look back on the wedding g and find moments of happiness but it just makes me sad and I regret doing it at all.

I mainly wanted to just put this out there and get it out of my head at least a little.

If anyone reads this, thank you for your time