What if I don't like ":3, UwU, Good Girl" ?

I am a transwoman (she/her). I'm in my mid 20s. I've been out for almost 3 years now and it's been incredible. I'm so much happier and I have come so far, but one of things I have constantly struggled with is connecting with the transfemme community.

I don't like or relate to a lot of the transwomam stereotypes. I don't like being called "good girl". I never use/say "UwU" or ":3". I'm not a catgirl and I give away any cat ears I get. All of these things don't feel like me. There's nothing wrong with those things, and Im happy people enjoy them so much, but they're just not for me.

Becasue of this I've found it difficult to connect with a large portion of the community. I can relate to other transwoman about dysphoria, obvious signs we missed when we were younger, and how HRT has impacted us but when it comes to what I will refer to as the UwU Culture, I can't relate at all. I am internally uncomfortable and repulsed when someone says "good girl" to me or asks me to meow ect. Calling me a woman, ma'am, lady, most anything femme as long as it's not phrased as "good insert Femme word" is great! I love it and it's affirming.

I guess I just see so much content and so many memes, and discussions regarding the UwU culture. This is also in regards to a lot of people I've met IRL who are very into the UwU Culture and it makes it hard for me to relate to them. I should clarify that I think the UwU Culture is adorable and lovely on other people but when people put those stereotypes on me or assume that I like those things it makes very uncomfortable very fast.

I do tell people this. I do set boundaries. I try to tell people that I don't like being called "good girl" or that I won't say "UwU" or that I don't feel comfortable meowing. This frequently leads to people not understanding, them questioning if I'm actually trans, and most frequently they just stop talking to me once I set those boundaries.

I really hope this doesn't come off as rude. I'm being really genuine.

Does anyone else relate to this? Thoughts? Suggestions for finding transfemme community I feel like I can relate with better?