Bf insists on telling me he hates my earrings. Idk why it's necessary

I (21F) got into getting ear piercings about a year ago and I have about 5. All my jewelry is dainty and simple. My bf (28M) has told me how much he hates them and it really brings me down. I got my first tattoo about 6 months ago and it's small and it's one we've talked about since before we started dating. He said he loved the idea but when I got it done he said he really hated it and the font was really ugly. He kept saying it until I was literally sobbing and still kept going!! I've been so unbelievably insecure about it ever since. Whenever I look at it in the mirror, I'm so embarrassed even if I'm alone. It's in a hidden spot so he's really the only one who's seen it. I just hate that he is so quick to make me feel bad about stuff like that. It really affects me. My piercings are one of my favorite things about myself so I don't want to be made to feel bad about it.

He later came to talk to me in person after these messages and told me how manipulative I am. I didn't say this to him, but I feel like he is being manipulative because I feel like that's a reasonable request. Any time I have an issue with the way he's treating me, he gets so upset. This is an extremely tame example and I actually spoke up for myself at some parts which is not like me so it might not be a great representation, but the conversation is short enough to fit into a post so whatever. I'm already feeling so done and I feel like that shines through

I feel like I'm going crazy. I can't talk to anyone in my life about what's going on or he'll get really upset, but he sends our messages to other people all the time out of context asking them for their opinions on me and my reactions. I am 99% sure my requests are all within reason and I try to be SO careful in how I word things, but he STILL finds things to cling onto in every conversation about him. Then the focus immediately shifts to me and I'm not allowed to have an issue with him for the rest of the time. If I bring it up later in a calm setting, it's even worse. I'm just so tired. It actually never ends. I've almost left so many times but I've never actually been able to pull myself to do it. I can't help but think I'm crazy and he is genuinely the person he says he is. It was our 2 year anniversary day before yesterday. These issues started at the 8 month mark when we moved in together and they've only gotten worse. This is a small example of a bigger issue. I need some unbiased opinions from people that don't owe him anything. Full conversation. Full context. Am I actually the problem??