My ( 24F) husband (27M) told me he didn't find me attractive at all after I gained weight. I lost the weight, and now I feel different. Now what?

Me and my husband have been together since I was 19. After a few months, I moved in. We've since bought a house together and finished college. Oh, and got married. When we first started dating I was 140 pounds ( l am 5'8) and he was 180. After a few years I was almost 200 pounds- I know a massive increase. But he also weighed 230 so I didn't think to much in it. After a while, he told me that I was big and no longer pretty and that I needed to lose weight. I was shattered. I developed an eating disorder and felt like I was abusing my body to get to a certain weight. Well, I finally made it to 130 pounds. Yet, he is still at 230ish. I don't even care that he weighs 230. But now he treats me completely different... such as now he is always trying to "love" on me and wants to hang out with me. Which I thought is what I wanted. But now I feel worse because my weight really does determine how much he loves me. When I was almost 200 pounds, he wouldn't even kiss or hug me only sex. I want to be loved for me, not just my appearance. I don't know how to feel.

TL;DR my husband called me fat, and I lost all the weight. Now i feel upset because I feel like he doesn't love me for me, only when I'm "smaller". Is this normal? What do I do?