Pregnancy weight gain is a joke

Edit: Thank you for all your responses! It made me feel so much better to see that not every pregnancy is a “one size fits all” google search situation. Hoping everyone is doing well🩷

I just want to preface this by saying everyone’s experience is different and healthy looks different on everyone, but here’s how I’m currently feeling. 34 weeks here. 5’8 and pre pregnancy weight was 155. Worked out weekly, toned, and was a professional dancer before I took time off in my pregnancy. Still moving, still eating balanced. Swam my first and second trimester almost every day. Third trimester is kicking my ass with sciatica, but still moving. Internet says, “Most women gain 25 to 30 pounds :)” uhm can I call BULLSHIT how in the world?! I watch my diet and sugars due to GD (diagnosed at 29 weeks) besides my tummy and my thighs looking thicker, I look pretty much the same besides some facial swelling and feet swelling. How did I gain 50 pounds so far?!! My question is, how do some only gain 20?! And not to mention I’m carb deprived and hungry ALL THE TIME. I FEEL LIKE A FAT COW WHO IS SOMEHOW STARVING. Sometimes I don’t think I’m eating enough calories on my gd diet. I feel so defeated no matter what I do🥲

Also side note: there are so many unrealistic standards and pressure for women to “bounce back” after having a baby. WHY IS SOCIETY LIKE THIS. Why do I care? And why is a dad bod acceptable but not a mom? I guess I’m just worrying because I plan to get back to dancing and training when baby is 4 months. Health matters I know this. You need to gain weight to support your baby. Besides, beauty is subjective and feeling good is what matters. I’m just scared I gained too much somehow even though I don’t feel like I look like it!!! I’m not vain, I’m just concerned how I gained so much somehow….