I don't fit in here :/ sos

hi, I am just venting? maybe if someone has any ideas on what I should do?

background: I am 25 F, I originally am from texas, moved to a few different states after I turned 22 and now I'm here for grad school. I moved here in May to make friends before school started.

horror stories:

( all different men)

- date one: took me to qdobo, was half an hour late, couldn't make eye contact, later on a facebook page "are we dating the same person" found out he has assaulted many woman

- date two: he talked about how he serially cheated on his gf the entire 6 years they were together

- date three: he c*me in his pants at the lunch table when I was talking about school and showed it to me to "prove he was attracted to me"

-date four? ( didn't know it was a date) went out with a couple from my work, I thought it was just as friends, later they told me they wanted to "romantically pursue me" ( they're 20+ years older than me, im not attracted to either at all, im straight and monogamous) , I explained I was straight and monogamus and I havnt heard from them sense ( they promised that whatever I decided they still wanted to be friends with me, as they knew I had been struggling)

grad school-

- I love my program, but it's very small and everyone is already cliqued off. i couldn't drink up until november and that put distance between some of us because I didn't want to/ didn't have time to get drunk and spend 2 days hungover. everyone is sweet! things are cordial!

random:

- took myself out to dinner the other night, I was wearing snow boots, tights, a skirt and a Christmas sweater and a woman in front of me started yelling at me "wtf are you wearing" I said- clothes " she said, oh you're not who I thought you were, but why the fuck are you wearing that" ( because I haven't left my apartment in 3 weeks besides going to the grocery store. and wanted to put real clothes on and feel good about myself )

- went out for NYE, went to North Shore with an old friend that moved to ohio. I have never seen so many people so uninterested in being out. we left by midnight to beat the rush. then my uber driver was just an awful person, even though my friend and I were sober.

-went to a dive bar near my house. man started talking to me, I said " I love when my kitty just curls up next to me in bed" he said "if a cat/ dog curled up next to me in bed, I am skinning it alive" and then doubled down when I was shocked.

- i've gone out to little events by myself. I try to talk to people ad get a one word answer and shut down. i've been to two different gyms long term and both I felt invisible at ( i have made my best friends in another state by going to the gym on a regular basis, and seeing people at the same time and waving/ smiling. nobody here waves/ smiles back.

- worked at a dive ish bar. had 2 awful managers. if I wore a tennis skort to work, one of my female bosses would make comments about me starting an OF, ( in front of customers, and was very graphic), my other manager was also a burning dumpster fire. I could do an entire post about working there and my horror stories. I left there.

it has wrecked my self esteem. I am here for another year and a half. I don't know what to do because everytime I venture out to leave my apartment, someone is mean to me or I am just completely invisible. I am trying so hard to like it here. I was very active on dating apps, and would get matches but conversations don't go very far.

EDIT: thank y’all so much!!!!! I have 800+ comments and 100+ inbox messages, I’m working through to respond to everyone bc y’all took time out of your day to respond to me <3 thank you so so much