Just paid off all my dept

So to start I am only 21 years old. When I was 17 my dad cheated on my mom and got a kid with another woman. That hit me so hard because I had the feeling I just lost my dad because he only cared for her and not for me and my sister. So to overcome the feeling I started to buy stuff to take my mind of the situation. So because of that I would spend my whole salary on items I don’t neet. Because I was spending all my money and was a student I was in like 10k of debt. Today i paid everything off and I am going to stop spending to much money. I made a budget of all my expenses and from there I will look what I can spent te extra money on. Just wanted to tell someone this because i feel good for the first time ever