Where do I fall in the aromantic/romantic spectrums

I have tried to understand my needs in terms of romance and s*x, and I have come to the conclusion that I like the idea of a romantic relationship, I can fall in love with someone, but the actual relationship and its actions within it (holding hands, kissing, sleeping in the same bed etc) repulse me because it affects my daily routine. I have no problem in staying in bed and cuddling (but sleep alone in bed), or kissing, holding hands etc during intercourse. But outside if, it hurts physically and mentally. 😂 The internet says I may be cupioromantic or grayromantic, but none of them fully describe me. What other type from the spectrum do you all think it might be?

For context, if it matters, I'm diagnosed with both ADahD and Autism and it might be something from the autistic part and it has nothing to do with my sexuality/romance type. Thank you in advance! 🤗🙏🏼