Pleasantly Surprised (Queer 30+F)

I never realized that this was real, outside of my own experience. Sure, there's nothing new under the sun- but I figured in my head that being sexual at a young age was just something that I alone had to live with. That having a higher libido than my partners or needed more physical touch than my siblings was just my burden alone.

Last week, I was watching a video on Pride flags and found out that WE have a flag. WE - not just me. I found my people, at last. 🖤🩷

As I've been reading your posts though, it seems like there's so much shame in being hypersexual. (I think I personally left that behind with my abusive marriage and religion years ago.) And I wish I knew the words to help us on, on bad days especially. I just don't believe that there is anything inherently wrong with being us.

Because I love risky sex but grew up extremely repressed - I have been abstinent for 2 years after a scare. Don't get me wrong, it's unpleasant.. I would have sex 5x/day if I could. And because life is on hard mode - I'm also completely sober besides my depression and ADHD meds. I probably masturbate once a week. And because of the infrequency, I don't usually cum. It's hard for me to get there alone.

My friends have been badgering me to date again. But I don't know how to do that safely (sexually or physically). So I don't try.

If I could pick the perfect partner though - I would choose one who is hypersexual, too. One who would allow themselves to rest in my need for them and their need for me.

May we all get someone who can love us like that. And may we keep them with our love for them.