Tees to play based on HC and Distance

Can someone help provide me with a website/reference document that shows the appropriate tees to play based on either HC or driver distance? My dad is 63, hits drives 220, and is a 12 HC. He is very stubborn/prideful and tries to play whites me and my friends who are 30 and closer to 260-280 off the tee. It slows the game up, hurts his score and he won’t listen to me. I don’t want to be fighting with him for something fun we do together but the man won’t listen to reason. I actually had trouble finding a good chart/official reference to show him. Thanks for any help with us picking up Pace of play/happiness of play