Phone calls to setup an interview are rude and off-putting

I've been interested in masonry for many years, after reading about the organization in novels, biographies and history books. I think my personal beliefs are aligned with the principles of masonry and a few weeks ago, just after turning 50 years old, I decided to contact my local lodge to express my interest in joining them.

The first phone calls with the secretary were really good, we spent 30-40 minutes talking and I really enjoyed the conversation. He asked me to prepare a short presentation letter and that I would then need to make 3 interviews with current lodge members. I prepared the letter and sent it.

After a few days, I received a call from one of the members and we setup an interview. This interview also went very well. We got along just fine and I think we could confirm that Masonry could be what I was looking for and that I could probably become a member.

Then I received a second call... And that was completely different from the previous iterations. The person calling was distant, unpleasant, he treated me like he was calling from the police or something like that. He only provided an hour and a place, a 1 hour drive from me, and when I said I was not available at that time, he just told me that he would call me again.

One week later, the same thing happened, again he treated me in an off-putting, too formal, manner, and he again only offered one place and one hour that was not convenient for me. He didn't offer any accommodation and said he would call me again.

Three weeks have passed since then and it really is making me reconsider this lodge. I have called the secretary today and told him that I expected a normal interview setup between adults, not a summons or an non-negotiable appointment. He has explained that each brother treats the process differently and that he will contact the guy to try again.

I don't know if this is some kind of test or if the guy really thinks that this is the best way to treat new interested people.

Any advice? I wouldn't even think about trying to change any way of doing things of an organization that I'd like to join. But this treatment is making me reconsider my desire to join them, and it saddens me that maybe this person is shy or have bad social skills and prevents a nice thing from happening. I'm looking from fraternity here.

(sorry for my english, not my native language)