How do you guys deal with unsolicited pity?

We've all been through trauma so there's no use pretending that we're not emotionally vulnerable from time to time. Especially the closer you get to people, friends or interpersonal relationships -- as they get closer to you and the more you learn about each other.

But bloody hell. I hate when others unsolicitedly empathize with me. I know they mean well and trust that they care. But the moment they share how they feel for me, I don't 'deserve' my life, or they want to make my life better, I cringe and want to rip the skin off my face. (most recently cringed at an INTJ expressing empathy towards me..)

My instinct is to doorslam but I'd like to do better this time around.. I also can't help the vibe shift from light-hearted and curious to robotic and try-hard.

FI users, any tips on Fi-ing?