F27 feeling so used and upset after being ghosted after sex by 29M

I feel so dumb but basically went on 2 dates with this guy and slept with him on the second date. We both went home for christmas so I knew we wouldn’t be seeing each other for a while. However, over Christmas we didn’t speak much (I didn’t think much about this as he was never a good texter). It was only when he ignored me for 5 days where I asked him if he was ghosting and he said he wasn’t and that he had a lot on because of his dog being ill. Stupidly I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we texted on/off for a week after sending the message and he ghosted again for a week. As it’s now been a week, I then went on Instagram and saw that he had removed me as a follower but was still following me so I just removed him. I know I should’ve just left it at that and never messaged him but tonight I’ve sent a message saying “hope you and your dogs ok. I’m guessing you’re no longer interested but just feel to awkward to say. Don’t worry I wont message you again I just wanted to say”. I know it was only two dates and I never expected anything serious but a 30 year old man incapable of just using his words and saying he’s not interested and then giving me breadcrumbs has really upset me and I actually feel traumatised due to the fact that I slept with him. Am I being too soft? I just feel used lol. This week whilst being ignored, I’m been so annoyed that I’ve lined up more dates with new hinge matches to make myself feel better but now I’m starting to think that I shouldn’t go on these and the apps simply arent for me. I’m too sensitive for them I hate this generations dating scene