First time was.. something else

We have been dating for 3 weeks, he was my first and I was his third (i don’t really care about body counts or whatever) I really don’t mind that he’s more experienced but … what was that.

The whole night was a blur, it was so eventful don’t get me wrong I love my boyfriend and everything and I KNOWWW “it’s probably just because you both are nervous” but it was bad like I set boundaries and everything with him because I was scared but he barely listened to me, I kept telling him to slow down and be gentle but he did not listen I don’t know what to do or who should I even talk to … He was like REALLY rough with me, he also called me a name that I did not like and I completely shut that down right away but he still called me it anyway. I really like him but I don’t know if this is normal for guys?? I just feel like it’s my fault and i’m overreacting because I didn’t set my boundaries clear enough. I need help honestly what do I do, is this even normal for the first time to go like this?