How an Abortion unexpectedly turned us into a fully childfree couple

I [32M] and my partner [31F] had always been on the fence, leaning towards not wanting kids, but being pressured by society into thinking we would eventually have one.

Anyways, 2 years ago, we had an unexpected pregnancy. Immediately, we both knew we didn't want it! No "what ifs", no sudden change of heart. We both knew that there was only one option- we weren't going to have this child.

We were both pretty surprised at our reaction, and how firmly we didnt want it. We both were kind of "meh" and very matter of fact about just doing what needed to be done.

After alot of long conversations about our feelings, we realized that it is ok to not want kids. Its ok, and even good, to prioritize ourselves and live how we want. Its good to be gentle on ourselves too. We figured out what we want our life to look like.

Tldr, an abortion turned us from a couple who didnt think much about kids but was probably unenthusiastically heading in that direction due to external pressure, to a fully & intentionally childfree couple.