The school calendar is impossible for working parents

My 7 year old daughter had TWO weeks off over Christmas break.

My husband and I didn’t have enough vacation time to cover two whole weeks. And you may think well that’s irresponsible - save your time! I only get 3 weeks off to begin with and between taking my kids on an actual vacation, other school breaks, and sick days there’s not enough.

My daughter has extreme social anxiety and OCD (already in therapy). We tried putting her in some camps over summer break and it was awful. She was too anxious to go and I ended up losing thousands of dollars on them (yes they cost that much).

She ends up just staying home with my husband and I while we work and she just watches TV which is HORRIBLE. But what else do I do? I can’t stop working. I can’t take time off.

We have no grandparent options. I’ve tried posting on local groups looking for a nanny to cover school breaks but most students are not off during those times (except summer).

Do I have to quit my job because the school calendar is impossible to work with? I thought by the time she was school age this would actually be easier and it’s harder.

I feel like the worst mom and really the worst employee because I can barely focus on my job in between trying to make sure my child isn’t rotting away from screen time on my couch.