Where are you all?

I see so many autistic people online that describe themselves similarly to me, yet in my real world I've met maybe one other autistic presenting person in my life? Keep in mind I'm nearly 30 now and have been in various engineering jobs where you would expect autistic people to wind up in. Instead, I'm greeted with the same kind of clique-y neurotypical banter that I find everywhere else in life. I end up excluded, ostracised and the butt of jokes.

Where are you all?