Your opinions: matches or a lighter

Hi All! First that I want to say that English is not my first language and maybe my post may have mistakes. So, then you see that, I’m so sorry and I hope that you understand me and what I mean. What do you prefer: matches or a lighter? In some resources written that you can use only matches, because using a lighter (for example, to light a candle) is considered disrespectful to the element of fire. At the same time, I see posts from other Wiccan and they use a lighter that lay on their altars. So, may I can use a lighter? Or I can use it for candles but on the circle I need use the matches? Thanks for answering! At the end of this post - Blessed Samhain! 🎃