My husband just told me “give me very well defined expectations for cleaning today and I’ll follow them.”

Like why do I have to do the mental work for you? You’re a grown ass man and can figure out how to clean. If it’s dirty, clean it. Last week (when I made a very specific checklist of things to clean), it was “I took a nap instead of helping you clean because I’d just get in your way.” This man is 41.

Edit: I guess the disgusted look on my face when he asked me to give him a list was a hint. I went for a ride on my motorcycle, and when I came home, he’d gotten quite a bit of cleaning done. Now we’re both cleaning up. He can be frustrating, but generally we work well together