Damon fans… why?

First time watching TVD and i am on season 5 of the show… I remember seeing a comment in this group that they started liking Damon in season 5. Im sorry but what do yall see in him?

Aside from the fact that he is funny and hot, he is the whiniest most toxic boyfriend for Elena and I genuinely don’t understand how people can overlook his behaviour? The MOMENT he gets hurt, he lashes out on people that Elena loves or cares about (and Elena forgives him time after time because “it’s not him”… is it really not him? He’s been pretty consistently a POS in every season so far). I don’t think I’ve ever seen him sincerely apologize to anyone he hurts except Elena, and the only reason he is friendly with any of the characters is for the sake of Elena. Like that’s not cute, he’s too big of a mess on his own and overall just not a good person.

Also for 5 whole seasons we see him be condescending with every woman except Elena, which is also kind of an ick, I guess some people like that

some reason him killing Aaron was the final straw for me like oh my god are you kidding me that’s Elena’s only college friend?

Also I hate when Damon says “I am not afraid to be the bad guy and get my hands dirty” because everyone eats it like “omg yessss he’s our dark knight our hero!!” There has been SO many instances where he does what he does just so that other people can feel as miserable as him, and it has NOTHING to do with him trying to help, and it is starting to piss me off that Elena will essentially stick up for him no matter how toxic his behaviour is. At this point I don t think Stefan is a great fit for her either, I just really really hate seeing Damon and Elena together and I am so frustrated by the things Damon is doing in this episode and need to vent lol