I (28M) got married recently and not satisfied with the sex.

Recently, I got married to an incredible woman who feels like the perfect partner in so many ways. She’s everything a man could dream of—tall (5’9), with a symmetrical face and an athletic figure that exudes confidence. I had an active and varied sex life before marriage, but I never felt the need to ask about her experiences; it didn’t seem important at the time.

Now, though, I find myself struggling. Our sex life feels unsatisfactory—not because of her appearance or willingness, but because something deeper is missing. There’s a lack of spontaneity, adventure, and that intoxicating spark that makes intimacy feel alive and exciting. I don’t know how to bridge the gap between the passion I’ve known. She always finishes first and then its me taking time and trying various things to finish while she somewhat looses interest and starts complaining about leg cramps. She doesn't fail to mention how good it feels but the connection doesn't feel effortless and electric.

I came dangerously close to texting one of my past hookups, "Let’s meet and fuck each other’s brains out," but stopped myself before hitting send.

How can I remedy this situation? Any advice helps. I don't want to watch porn in the bathroom to finish.