i'm tired, devs. Maps are too hardcore

i don't consider myself a sweat in poe, but i'm not an absolute noob. I'm level 84, mostly ssf and crafting on almost every blue i find that isn't bad, i took the acrobatics perk after a friend told me it was essential and still have above 80% evasion but i find if i don't have life, es and armour, evasion means absolutely nothing because the game seems hard coded to make you get hit and evasion diminishes after like 80%

i just want to play the game without following a build and using trade for every piece of gear.

let me respawn and finish the map like poe 1, or put life nodes in the tree again so i'm not getting evaporated by fire on the floor with 75% res. it's so un-fun getting 1 popped, even more so when you can't see the mechanic like in my video

i'm losing the spark to play, call me bad but i don't think i'm wrong chief

edit: some people say my life is too low, i agree! i can't find items that have both resistances and life and evasion, if i'm supposed to skim poe trade and spend 30 div on every item just to have a perfect character so i don't die, i don't think that's very casual/new player friendly, this is my whole point. up until maps i wasn't dying in 1 shot, even to massive boss mechs, and now these white mobs are corpse exploding me for my whole health bar (probably overkilling way more) under 50 other textures on the floor.

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