Dad with extra marital afffairs
This began in 2008, when I was 14 years old. One day I found out some texts in my father’s phone with some lady. Being a naive teenager I told this to my elder brother. He got silent for a while, didn’t say anything to me but started writing something on his notepad, very furious, he sat alone in a room for few hours. My mother went to him and inquired that what is he doing. He told him what I saw. Now I wasn’t understanding what has happened, why is my brother acting like this. Turns out he had faced similar thing during his childhood. He even faced comments by people of our city that your dad has affairs and all. He was so traumatised with that incident that he literally asked my mother to leave my father, and they’ll manage by themselves. Anyways, my brother was angry, furious that I might be facing similar situation too with friends and locals. One thing I forgot to mention in beginning that I and my brother has 11 years of age gap. Now imagine he had found out about my dad’s affairs when he was a teenager, so many years later, his 11 years younger brother finds the same thing in his teenage. Anyways, he confronted dad, there was a big verbal fight and at such extent that my brother said we don’t want to live with dad anymore etc. I still remember, i can never forget what my dad said to me after this “thank you for burning my house”. Imagine a 14 years old child receiving this text message from his father? His hero? It’s been 15-16 years to this incident but i still remember this text message. Anyways, with this whole tense situation, my dad (age: 52) got severe angina pain which resulted into a heart attack. We all sat with him when he was back from hospital, cried our hearts out, even apologised to him. Since them we have always been worried about his heart condition, as on and off, he gets tachycardia and all. Fast forward to 2019, my brother had shifted to abroad with his family, he came to Pakistan for my sisters wedding and guess what? He saw my dad’s text with other women again. He was so furious, so angry, he wanted to leave back, but my mother calmed him down, and never told us about it. We had a common family friend for many years. That lady was close to my mother and my other relatives too. She was like a spiritual lady sort of. So my mother used to tell her everything, she was involved in every discussion of our family, she was like a family member. Turns out she was having affair with my dad too. Anyways, it was my convocation day, my dad who was 62 by that time, had came to attend the ceremony with my mother. I don’t know he was looking at other women or what but my best friends’ brother gave this comment in a very taunting way that “your dad is still very young… from heart”. I knew exactly what he meant but I chose to ignore. Every time my dad was caught with an affair, there was disturbance in the house, he used to get tachycardia or other heart condition, we used to panic and everything used to settle out after coming back from hospital. Just because of this reason, I never tried to confront dad, or told him that I still know about his affairs, may be I’m still traumatised by that text message. After all these incidents, his heart condition, and during this time my mother got hospitalised too during COVID, almost reached ICU, but Alhamdolilah she got well. We thought everything is normal now. Since my dad is very religious, he’s into his prayers and all, and after what we have seen, he must have left everything. But then came 2022, my sister saw my dad texting other woman again. A similar kinda scene happened as in 2009. She was in car with my dad and her daughter who was 2 years old at that time, she confronted him, she shouted, she was angry, and she even said that now if you come to home and say that you’re having a heart issue it means you are only pretending. My dad was silent, he swore upon my niece that now he’ll not get involved with anyone. Recently, my dad an mom had visited my this sister abroad, and my dad’s phone used to ring a lot. Keeping the past in mind, she was getting furious that what if dad is again involved with any woman, even after swearing on her daughter. She told my mom that she’s having doubts on dad, and she said if it turns out to be true, I’ll break all ties with dad for breaking the promise which he took, that too upon her daughter. My mom calmed her down, and told her that dad is so many whatsapp groups that’s why the phone keeps ringing and all. But guess what? Last week, mom found out that my dad (aged: 70) is again having an affair with a girl literally of my elder sister. I mean I’m so frustrated. I’m so angry. I don’t know what to do. I mean even I’m feeling ashamed to confront my dad now. All of my siblings are parents too, and I’m going to be too soon In Sha Allah. Imagine all his children are now parents, but he can’t stop having these affairs.
Please don’t say anything rude or bad about my dad. I’m just so frustrated, I can’t even talk about this to anyone that’s why wrote this long ass post here. I’m sorry guys. Thank you if you have read till the end.