Would Naruto and Sasuke actually be viewed as positively if one was a woman?

People often say "if Sasuke was a girl, it would be the best romance story ever". But the way that Sasuke and Sakura or Sasuke and Karin is viewed by a large segment of the fanbase makes me feel like it would be viewed worse.

The reasons people give for why Sasuke/Sakura or Sasuke/Karin is bad is usually "Sakura's feelings were shallow and had no good justification", "Karin acted creepy". But another pretty common criticism I have seen is that the ships are 'abusive' because Sasuke tried to kill them both AND you shouldn't have a romantic relationship with someone who has tried to kill you.

One of the bloodiest panels in the manga was when Sasuke plunged his chidori through Naruto's chest. Are you telling me this wouldn't be viewed as abuse, if Naruto was a girl?

Or how about Naruto telling female Sasuke he's going to break every bone in her body and drag her back? And the way that Naruto acts so possessive over him?