Were you manipulated with sex?

In trying to google all I get is results about being manipulated to have sex, but I want to hear about someone using sex like a weapon. Holding it against you/withholding it to control you.

My relationship with my ex was especially bad with sex and I feel like I’m so affected by it. He never cared if I was turned on or if I was satisfied. He stealthed me. He manipulated me into not using condoms at all anymore, even when I wasn’t on birth control.

When he stopped wanting it as often he’d make me feel bad for being confused about it. He’d turn me down and freak out if I ever tried to talk about how I wanted it more or if he could at least do something to turn me on.

He’d make sure to make me feel very bad about trying to talk about it, he’d say I’m crazy for being obsessed with it. Once he told me to just go be a whore, once he told me to just got sleep with a guy I worked with.

He’d tell me how other women were into him, he’d have a crush right in front of me. When we’d go out sometimes he wouldn’t walk with me because he wanted to get attention from other women. He would rather watch porn and would deny everything when I saw the evidence.. he’d also follow sexy not famous women on Instagram.

He’d get mad at me when I brought up how it bothered me that he liked sexy pics of women, or once he liked every profile pic of a girl he said he liked before. Sometimes he’d say maybe he didn’t want to have sex because how I act, or if we were fighting he’d be like I don’t even want to touch you.