Is this normal? I’m about to quit…

I am totally new to this field and am feeling extremely burnt out after taking my current job. For context, I just graduated college and have never nannied before but have several years experience as a day camp/daycare teacher during summers. Full transparency, I have never intended and do not intend for childcare to be my career but it was a convenient job to have as a student and I have to go to grad school to break into my desired field (waiting on admission decisions rn). I took a job as a nanny/house manager in July and am wondering if I’m being asked to do more than reasonably expected or if I’m just being a baby about it. The following is the job listing word for word:

“Overview: As the Household Manager, you will play a vital role in overseeing various household tasks, including meal preparation, light cleaning, taking children to sports practices, pick up daughter from school. Responsibilities:- Manage household operations efficiently and effectively.- Prepare nutritious meals for the family with help of mother of children- Maintain a clean and organized living space.- Demonstrate expertise in childcare practices.- Showcase cooking abilities to meet dietary needs. Skills:- Proven experience in meal preparation and cooking.- Proficiency in maintaining cleanliness and organization.- Background in nannying and babysitting.- Strong childcare skills with a focus on safety and well-being.- Ability to adapt to various children's needs.- Capability to cook diverse meals for different dietary requirements.”

One of my first days with them, mom gave me the following checklist printed out:

Reset Whole House - Clear surfaces, pick up items from floor, spot clean/vacuum - Make kid beds + quick clean kid bathroom - Restock toilet paper, paper towels, soap, trash bags - Put things where they should go or in guest room catch-all bin - Create systems or homes for things as needed - Quick reset cluttered areas (ie: kitchen junk drawer) Text [mom] with questions/concerns

Prepare Meals - Unload dishwasher - Make dinner (M, T and W only) - Prep dinner for the next day (ie: thaw meat) - Create meal plan (for [mom] to review on W evening) - Input grocery list to on Th (for F morning pick-up) - Leave [mom] note for M meal prep (ie: thaw meat) - Feed [dog] and keep her water bowl filled

Laundry - Wash kid laundry on Mondays - Wash kid bedding on Thursdays - Drop off dry-cleaning on Tuesdays - Pick up dry-cleaning on Thursdays - Make sure sports uniforms are ready for weekend

Child Care - Encourage independence, gratitude, manners :) - Prep bags for after-school activities: uniforms, water bottles, snacks - Pick up kids from school and take to activities - Help kids unpack bags + reset for next day - Oversee tutoring + homework - Clean car by end of day Friday

Calendar Management - Sort school papers + add dates/info to calendar - Attach location info/address to calendar entry - Send invitation to [mom] via calendar for all entries - Get supplies, food, gifts as needed for all school/activity/event needs - Have 2 girl/2 boy gifts wrapped and ready to go (with specific sticky note to identify contents) - Schedule kids doctor and dentist appointments - Leave notes + supplies as needed for next day or weekend activities

To be honest I was a bit overwhelmed at first and expressed this, but was assured that previous employees had been able to get it all done and have downtime on top.

Just a few of the things I have since been told/expected to do that are NOT on that list: - Be a runner/assistant for moms side business (pickup furniture and decor, make inventory spreadsheets, deliver to/help set up her jobs onsite) - Make purchases on my own card when they forget to leave me the family card (I have been reimbursed but still do not want to be using my own funds; again have expressed this) - Always set out kids uniforms/clothes for activities and put clothes back in drawers once washed (I know this is probably part of the job, but kind of just a personal grievance since kids are old enough to do this themselves—9 and 12) - Drive boy’s school carpool group once a week - Send parents weekly reminders email with full rundown of kids school/activity schedules for the week, with info I pick out of emails from school/teachers they forward me - Pack kids luggage and drive family to/from the airport when they travel - Schedule dogs grooming appointments and pick her up from them. Walk her at least 3x a week - Manually pay certain bills that come in (i.e. if bill for kids specialized medical visit comes in, I’m asked to log on and pay it for them) - Do all store/amazon/ups/fedex returns and shipments - Most recently, wrapping and addressing (literally writing “to: —— from: [mom, dad, etc]” on Xmas presents for their immediate and extended family

A couple weeks ago, the parents and I sat down for a quick family meeting where we aired out our concerns. I was told I am not doing enough for what I’m being paid and that they’ve had previous people “do more for less”. Their main point with this was that they wanted me to be signing the kids up for all the events listed in school emails, which I had not been doing myself but would mention and include links to registration in the “weekly updates” email I sent them. Most of these activities cost money so I assumed they would want to review them themselves and decide whether why wanted to do it, so this was not something I previously thought to ask if I was supposed to do. They also want to reduce the amount of questions I ask them. Most of these questions are based on preferences I need to be aware of (e.g. which item do you want for kids friend’s bday gift) or confirming transportation arrangements to and from locations. I also expressed my discomfort with being disrespected by daughter and issues with scheduling (I was told during interview I’d work 12/1-6, and have often been texted early the day of saying they need me earlier, and have had to stay til close to 7).

Basically, I wanna know if all this is normal for this kind of job, and if it would be worth it to you to stay for 6 more months. I honestly am at a point where I dread coming everyday and plan to put in my notice soon.

More context: I am in the Dallas area, working in a neighborhood where it’s the norm to have various “help” (noun) and I am paid $28/hr. No benefits besides use of a family car (and a 401k if I stay until 2026). I don’t know if this provides any insight but I know I am at least the 5th person they’ve had in this position within at least the daughter’s life time.