mil taunting me about not having children. Making me depressed.
Salam. We have been married for 2 years now. Zero kids. Plans to conceive only after 6 months or so (due to personal reasons). I am pretty sure there’s absolutely no need to clarify those reasons OR our plans on having kids to ANYONE at all(especially mom / mil). But few weeks after our Nikah to even today; just this evening itself, she goes on : “what are you guys planning to do? No kids yet!? Who will look after you guys or even when one of u is no more, in the future?! If u want someone to acknowledge you then, u need to start making them now!!! Look at you guys living a life with no kids, how are u passing your time?! Don’t u need them atleast for some happiness? It should be made at the right time or else there won’t be a chance! Etc etc etc” Fyi, we are living a very beautiful life, alhamdulillah. We enjoy our time that Allah has granted for us the most, since we know the couple-time takes a backseat for a while once we have kids. Also, mil recently moved to our apartment (fil passed away), that’s the reason why she’s able to see our weekend outings and daily activities. These tauntings(yes, when u hear them face to face, it’s really harsh) make me angry and depressed. I don’t answer her back out of respect, but i, most of the times, get the urge to. My husband often answers her back with an Insha Allah, that’s it. What i wanna know is, has any of you experienced this? She does this almost every week and tbh, I’m feeling really negative towards her! What do i do?
EDIT : me n my hus are NOT against having kids, Infact we are really loooking forward to, just not right now. But it feels weird telling your mil this piece of info. Is that necessary?