Found my husband’s OnlyFans charges
A little preface: the day before Christmas I (38f) found a social media conversation on husbands (46m) phone with another women asking for a video. I let it go a little too quickly because I was focused on making the holiday wonderful for our kids and didn’t want to spend the day mad at my husband. Christmas night we finally chatted and talked through it and I asked him if there was anything else going on that I needed to know about to which he said ‘no. You believe me right?”.
That didn’t convince me, so on the 26th I decided to do my own investigating. I found his credit card statements from the past year, to only find that there were hundreds of dollars spent on OnlyFans over an 8-month span. There weren’t any outrageous charges, I think the largest one was for $25 and everything else was below that.
I don’t really know how the site works, except that you subscribe to someone and can pay “extra” for special “stuff”. He claims the charges were purely for videos only, nothing one-on-one or customized, as those would have had more of a higher price tag.
Yes, I’m bothered by the spending of money on porn when it greatly affected our marriage (and we’ve already talked through this) but I can’t get over the thought that he may have been watching girls while girls watched him. It’s down right humiliating to think about.
Looking for advice from others familiar with the site if I should believe him? I have already pressed him on it and explained that I just want to know the truth rather than find out later, as it would definitely end our marriage to find out if he was lying. He is still very adamant that he never had conversations with these women nor did anything one on one with them.
I honestly want to believe him because I do love the man, I just need a little insight (or affirmation hopefully) on how the site works exactly.
TIA