help

hey guys, i’m feeling really defeated, i checked the 3d and my ex (sp) is with another girl, ( i checked the 3d via an old mutual friends instagram ) i’m really sad about this and i’m really in bits at the moment, i have been persisting and will continue to do so but can’t help but feel really sad over this, i find neville really hard to read because of it being old english. i feel so upset because of how much i do love him and want this , im finding it harder to detach now i know this information and my mind is racing with all different thoughts. ive had a huge on and off crying session! i just don’t know what to do , i still want this, but just dont know how to move forward now. i’m just grieving our love and to see him like that with another has really hurt me :/ i need some advice and encouragement to get myself out of this rut, seeing it’s made me have more doubts then i did before, i know i have things to work on about my fears of there being someone else and people leaving me but i feel affirming isn’t enough to get underneath and get to the root of these problems. i just want my love back! so please please please if anyone has any advice please let me know, thankyou for reading this if anyone’s been in a similar situation and come out of it please let me know how you dealt with it x

add on: i’m still persisting with the new story but because of what i saw, it keeps popping in my head causing me to have unfavourable thoughts. (we split in august) it’s also a long distance relationship. i understand that i do also need to work on myself because of some off the beliefs that i have towards myself, im in the process of also getting therapy.