Fans of MMO PvP what are you playing?

Longtime MMO player looking for suggestions on what anyone who enjoys pvp is playing. I always end up going back to WoW regardless of how mediocre the balance is or how awful the pvp gear grind is. Unfortunately it feels like the other MMO's on the market just don't get the same feeling that WoW has maintained. Is there anything else like it?

For example, in WoW its much smaller fights, and decisions actually matter. You can tell when you're pressuring another player or being pressured yourself and have to respond accordingly. Individual choice matters and can be felt in each fight. On the other hand games like FF14, which suffers from terrible server ping and lack of balancing, or GW2 where small scale pvp is essentially dead seem to fail to meet the bar WoW has set. GW2 WvW also seems to devolve into mindless zerg fights where individual contribution is impossible to gauge and it doesn't feel nearly as rewarding.

Other games I've tried like BDO have so many strings attached to its pvp that it is impossible to fully engage with or enjoy. BDO's gearing system gates players behind incredibly steep grinds or money sinks. Similarly, ESO's combat feels incredibly lackluster and the pvp suffers as a result. I haven't had a chance to play New World but from the community consensus that game has problems bigger than PvP which seem to affect its player count.

In the end I always go back to WoW only to stop playing a few weeks into the season because of how time gated the pvp gearing is or because of mediocre balance decisions leaving a few classes dominating everyone else, not to mention horrible LFG experience if you try to push 2's or 3's. What is everyone else playing or is this just the MMO environment for pvp at the moment?