What to wear to my own wedding

My (29f) and my fianceé (29f) will be getting married within the next two years. However, I don't know what to wear. She is feminine, so she will definitely be wearing a dress, that's a conversation we've had a million times.

However, I'm masculine. I don't really like dresses. But I also don't feel entirely comfortable wearing a suit as it projects the societal norms of a man and woman getting married. I'm also plus size.

Plz send help reddit🤣🤣