40 and interested in making friends

Hello, I'm at a loss on how to make friends. I've tried at work to no avail, I don't have interest in being alcoholic establishments, I'm not an artist or a gamer and I don't run or bike. Volunteering seems to be something I could potentially do but I am a night owl. I would prefer someone to chat with and get to know and on the days I am able to sleep at night, wake up for for the day, I could meet up for some sort of activity. Having coffee with someone seems a bit awkward. I'm just at a loss of what's available for someone like me. I am told I have so many excuses but it's because I have run myself dry on trying everything I can think of. Furthermore, I have a lot going on emotionally and mentally and I'm not sure it's the best time to be making friendships but I feel that's what I need the most! Obviously I don't have family so I'm quite lonely. Please send help! Thanks