Wedding kharcha

I'm getting married to my boyfriend of 7 years. We are both 31 right now. I don't have job right now but I have been employed until last year. Now because of this, I am not splurging my savings on unnecessary things and trying to contain and grow my money.

Earlier I had dreamt of big fat indian wedding when I had sufficient money and my bf had lesser money reserves compared to me. Now the situation is reversed. Since they are ladkewale, his parents are demanding that ladkiwale must bore all the expenses.

On top of that I'm from North India and he's south Indian. I'm feeling discomfort in planning a wedding of different culture in their locality and paying for it when I'm this fucked financially. I can't wear lehenga, I gotta adorn saari and still pay for it !! Man, I just can't do this.

a) I am open to throw small size wedding(our customs) at my home town because I live here after job loss.

b) My bf is open to taking kharcha on his own for small intimate wedding(their customs) in south India but his parents thinks we must pay not their ladla son.

What do you think could be the best solution for this situation?