We’re living in a era where people use therapy talk and identity politics to excuse the fact that they’re just losers

I want to provide some quick context to explain my perspective. I grew up with a unique upbringing. My mom had me at 19, and we struggled with evictions and basic needs before my mom and stepdad built a successful business. Their hard work taught me the importance of accountability and effort. I know my experience is an anomaly, but it shaped how I view personal responsibility.

I believe we’re living in an era where therapy talk and identity politics are often used to excuse unhappiness and inaction. While everyone faces challenges, I’ve noticed a tendency to focus on external factors—whether it’s a marginalized identity or life circumstances rather than taking steps to create change. Struggles don’t have to define you, and they certainly don’t have to hold you back.

Too often, I see people spending time comparing themselves to others on social media, complaining about the life they don’t have, but not doing anything to change it. If you have access to the internet and time to scroll, you also have access to resources to learn new skills and better your situation. Complaining without action won’t move you forward.

This isn’t about dismissing real struggles; it’s about recognizing that many people create excuses instead of taking ownership of their choices. At the end of the day, most people are too focused on themselves to care about your identity or circumstances. The only thing truly stopping you is you.

Happiness doesn’t have to be extraordinary it just has to be yours. You don’t need to chase instant gratification; instead, focus on making meaningful, intentional choices that lead to longterm fulfillment.

Edit: I edited the post because I want to be clear that this is less about maxing out and being rich or wealthy and more about happiness and how you have control over the outcomes of your life most of the time