How to create a context where I can access pleasure?

Hi folks,

I'm in a predicament. I used to be HL, and I want to want sex, but my partner and I can't seem to create a context in which I can access pleasure. There seems to be a brake that is unavoidable, and with zero accelerators, it's just not happening for me.

My partner has a kiddo 1/2 time, and I am completely unable to get in the mood when kiddo is with us. We try to fit intimacy in before/after bedtime, but it's never guaranteed that we won't be interrupted. Even when we try to have one on one time, after a day spent interacting with this kiddo I have zero interest.

The solution you would think is to prioritize 'us' time when kiddo isn't here. It usually takes me several days to a week to recover from the stress and chaos, and by the time I recover, kiddo is back with us again.

I make an effort to make sure my partner gets what he needs, but I just don't have any interest in my own pleasure and I'm becoming resentful.

I understand that the 'Brake' can't be removed, but how do we add enough accelerators such that I can have interest in pleasure? Any advice would be so welcomed.