DAE get annoyed when people pity trauma survivors?

Maybe it’s a me thing, because even saying “survivor” makes me shudder a bit, but i can’t help it. When people hear about complex trauma and seem shocked or sympathetic when it comes to life experiences, it just lets me know that they’ll never understand. For a little context, I was in a class about trauma informed care, and as i was grappling with the fact that my ACES score was higher than the example, statistically i should be a felon, on hard drugs, or dead, my peers were acting like they couldn’t believe what they were hearing. but those experiences, however sterilized and stripped of nuance, were my every day life. idk. i’m proud of where i’m at today but it’s been a hard life. some people have to fight every day to find a bit of healing and it shouldn’t be seen as sad but for the invisible, insurmountable amount of strength it takes.