Best wishes to the hurt, lonely and sad. You're not alone.

The festive season, filled with joy, being with your friends, family and loved ones.

It’s the most horrible time for the ones on this sub.

If you’re still in a relationsip with your pwBPD, it’s hell.
Most of us have seen the pattern, hopefull, intimate and special moments are always followed by horror.
It’s the season of impossible standards, enmeshment and proving your love (even more than usual).
The fear of abandonment and the fear of engulfment combined, lucky you.

I’ve only had three years with mine, relatively short, yet I can safely say I’ve seen horrors I couldn’t imagine.
In those three years we only spent one new years eve together, which was pretty nice, and had to be ruined at the end of course.

The ones who just left the relationship.

Your family doesn’t get you, what’s left of your friends doesn’t get you.
The trauma bond and FOG are still strong, you still believe with 80-100% of your heart that you lost the partner of your dreams.
That your fragile and suicidal partner is either about to die from a broken heart or being abused by ignorant or malicious people.

Or maybe you’re torturing yourself thinking they have already moved on happily with someone else while you sit here all alone.

Last year was the shittiest ever, pure horror.
I’m here because I’m thinking of you.
I’m not here lingering, I’m here for you.

These days are horrible, but I promise you it’ll get better.
You just have to stick to NC, I’m proud of you.

You might not believe it yet, just as I didn’t back then, but:
I don’t miss them, I pity them.
I can’t be jealous anymore, I feel sorry for the new supply.
I’ve found new friends and I’ve found love that doesn’t hurt.
You will too, just not today, but you will.

I wish you the best next year.
Break free, set boundaries, stay NC and never lose hope for a better future.

You got this <3