Future Faking

Does anyone else feel this is the cruelest of the avoidant behavior? I know they don’t do it purposefully like a narcissist would, but I still feel it’s the most damaging.

I was given every reason to believe that he was in it for the long haul- we moved in together (a first for both of us), looked at apartments in his home state for his next move, talked about engagement rings. Sent each other houses we’d buy. Less than a month before the breakup he told his parents in front of me that we were moving near them in a year.

It’s like they get so high on the honeymoon phase that they make promises that feel good in the moment but deep down know they likely can’t follow through on. And then carry on to act like relationships are just chapters in a book that are easily finished and moved on from.